Whether you're in business for yourself, part of a company, or trying to communicate with your family and friends, one of the key components to communication are the words you use. While the tone and packaging play a part in the effectiveness of the message - your words go a long way in opening or closing doors.

Here are seven words that have the highest probability in closing the doors and how you can choose differently.

How would you like to have Station MSFM always playing in your head? What would it look like if the money were flowing in and everything looked as good as it felt? Would you be impassioned to take action whenever the opportunity presented itself? Would you use all of the tools at your disposal to create change?

We all have a money station playing in our head - every moment of every day.

Being a performer all of my life I've come to see that the formula for freedom has existed around me every day of my life. Whether it is through music or business the parallels are undeniable.

Many folks have heard of the Pythagorean theorem which says "In any right triangle, the area of the square whose side is the hypotenuse (the side of a right triangle opposite the right angle) is equal to the sum of areas of the squares whose sides are the two legs (i.

As busy professionals we are always on the lookout for the best way to accomplish our goals. We want more freedom to enjoy the benefits that being our own "master" provides. As we seek to expand our prosperity and productivity we encounter many individuals who help and support us on our path.

But what about when we find ourselves going back again and again for help and .

Recently I was speaking with an attorney; talking about their business and what they wanted from their networking. We discussed the idea of focusing their initial dialog on their preferred aspect of their business and an interesting situation arose. When I asked what really set them on fire - what passion fanned their flame, they answered, "It's not Law.

You've waited years for you're White Knight to whisk you to the castle.

Then that wonderful day came when you finally said "I do" and low and behold "you didn't".

Months or years go by and you're still waiting for the pure bliss. Maybe there were moments of pleasure but it still wasn't what you dreamed.

In today's society there are those of us that have grown up with the idea of how a wife's job is to please her husband.

In biblical times it was referred to as "knowing". Today the act of sexual intercourse between couples is most often relegated to "having sex" or "making love".

It isn't that "making love" is really negative. It's definitely preferable to "having sex" particularly when your married.

I would just like to take a few minutes to examine how our language might be coloring our perception of the act and the relationship between a husband and wife.

The focus for the moment is on leadership style. We're all leaders in one way or another. The questions are: Do we lead by example, or is it "do as I say not as I do"? Do we realize the effect that our words as well as our actions have on ourselves?

The saying "actions speak louder than words" has been around since it first appeared in the 1692 book, Will and Doom, by Gersham Bulkeley when he wrote "Actions are more significant than words".

As a singer and performer I know it is the ability to simplify the delivery that seems to embrace the most artistry, the greatest beauty.

I believe it is that way with life too. When we look at our fears and see our ability to choose, we embrace our freedom.

When we make different choices, we change the outcome. Sometimes the slightest change will make the biggest difference in the results.

Here are four questions for you:

1.Do you find it challenging to answer the question, "What's your Unique Selling Position (USP)?"
2. Do you talk about the features of your product or service verses addressing the benefits by answering (before they ask) "So what's so good about that?"
3.Do you discount your actions or accomplishments with statements like, "Oh that, it was nothing"?
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