Robert Doyel is concerned about the babies born to unmarried moms - so concerned, in reality, he's written a novel about the issue. His view is an odd one: He spent 16 years as a Florida judge, largely at family court, in which he had been involved in over 15,000 restraining order cases, in addition to thousands of addiction, custody, and paternity cases.
What worries him , he states is that"there is not any concerted effort anyplace even to report on the problem, let alone attempt to do something about it" His worries about"the incidence of unwed births and identifying the problems they cause" led him to compose The Baby Mama Syndrome (Lake Cannon Press).
This publication is an eye-opener, researching the issue of those"fragile families" from various angles, such as the issues of misuse, neglect, and violence. Social workers, educators, doctors, nurses, and other specialists that deal with those kids and their parents will probably be considering the absolute size of the issue (1.6 million infants annually ) along with the demographic information in this publication.
Doyel notes the birthrate for teens continues to be trickling down for many decades, but the amounts are still chilling: In 2014, just more than a quarter of a million babies have been born to women 19 and under. You will find 2771 births to women under 15, and nearly all of these young mothers were unmarried.
Regardless of the widespread assumption that the majority of these single moms are black, figures demonstrate that unmarried white moms have the most infants, followed by Hispanics and blacks.
His considerate and well-researched publication makes a significant contribution to the national conversation about those infants, their mothers, and also exactly what occurs as the kids develop and all too-often - replicate the syndrome. Three features of this book are particularly striking.
This book provides many instances studies grouped into patterns: feminine competitions, dads married to another girl, moms married to another guy, lesbian couples, and much more - to mention a couple. Additionally, there are triangles, rectangles, and sequential troublemakers.One chapter deals with a intricate routine that Doyel calls"Baby Mama and Boyfriend vs. Baby Daddy and Husband."
Reading through the permutations and complications generates a picture of this problem which mere data can't supply - and opens a window to the causes. "Baby mamas" sabotage and assault rival girls who've had multiple infants by exactly the same"baby daddy" Married women and"baby mamas" struggle over a"baby daddy" who's fathered their children.
Readers gradually become knowledgeable about the reasons why these girls keep having babies by guys who will not marry or encourage themJealousy, poor impulse control, unrestrained sexuality, along with an inability to get a grip on their lives and their futures. The actual sufferers, clearly, are their kids.
Doyel's second donation to the"baby mama" debate is his view as a judge. Laymen often think that it's easy to generate a judgment in cases of abuse and violence: Issue a controlling order. Place him (or her, or everybody involved) in prison.
Composing out of years of experience on the seat, he exposes a number of the legal intricacies that a judge has to deal with. "As far as the legislation is concerned," he writes,"violence involving two infant mamas or involving two infant daddies is not any different from violence involving two strangers at a barroom brawl. That should change."
Restraining orders have complexities of their own. In accordance with Doyel,"Too many occasions if there's mutual aggression, among those aggressors seeks an injunction and then uses it as a sword, not a defense."
Mutual restraining orders appear to get known for, but they are illegal in Florida (where he served as a judge) due to the following possible problem: Judges may be tempted to use them as a means to avoid needing to creating a decision in a complex domestic violence situation. Effect: A conundrum for a quote dealing with rival"baby mamas" fighting the guy who fathered their children.
One characteristic of those"baby mama" hearings is particularly troubling: In his expertise, Doyel says, the dads rarely appear for hearings. Remaining away from court, he says, keeps the girls focused on each other instead of on their baby dad's betrayal of both of these.
Doyel's jargon-free explanations of varied physiological problems make this book particularly valuable for professionals that intervene in emergencies involving"baby mamas" and their kids.
The subtitle into Doyel's novel makes it very clear that the baby mama syndrome impacts everybody :"Unwed Parents, Intimate Partners, Romantic Rivals, and the Rest of Us." Taxpayers cover medical bills, court costs, and other expenses for infant mamas and their kids.
The most essential sufferers, naturally, are the kids, who might be exposed to negligence, abuse, and violence. Even when there aren't any actual risks, a number of these kids witness abusive behaviour between the adults that are supposed to function as their role models.
"Cut off the money" is the battle cry of citizens that need single parents to take responsibility for those decisions they've made. However, two chapters in Doyel's novel assert that the issue isn't solved so easily.
In"Generations," he discusses what happens when kids in"fragile families" develop. "It's well recorded," he states,"that sons of fathers who perpetrate acts of domestic violence will probably be batterers too" However, the syndrome doesn't end there. Studies indicate that child abuse, neglect, and infant mama rivalries additionally pass from generation to generation.
In his closing chapter,"The Baby Mama Syndrome and the Rest of Us," Doyel discusses treatments, such as prevention, sex education, and contraception. He's promised two books which will expand upon those subjects. Book two will concentrate on violence, and book three will go over the fate of those kids who grow up in those"fragile families"
The Baby Mama Syndrome is a readable and thought-provoking publication. It'll be especially beneficial to professionals that deal with those"fragile families"